I am not sure why the 70s and 80s have been on my mind recently, maybe its because of Donna Summer dying. She was the 1970s. Maybe its because we are having a party with a theme of 1980 – which I consider part of the 70s. Maybe its the piece I wrote on Jackie yesterday. I think its all of these reasons. I was growing up in the 70s so I was too young to really understand what was going on, I didn’t learn about Studio 54 until many years later. The free loving 1970s can go over a kids head, the 80s was more my decade, I went from a boy in high school to a college graduate living and working in Manhattan. Its funny how as a kid you don’t know whats normal and whats not. I remember seeing wide neckties and lots of plaid, but thats just the way things were. I remember watching the Mary Tyler Moore show and thinking nothing of it, just enjoying it. I didn’t realize it was one of the first TV series to star a woman and be about a single woman’s life. Seeing it just seemed natural. All of Sue Anne’s lines went over my head but I still thought they were funny. When I was a kid no ones mother worked, I can’t think of anyone who had a mother with a job. That just wasn’t the way it was. I was brought up to think that men provided for their families and women ran the household. My mother did a lot of volunteer work at museums but was always home before we got home from school. Years later I look back on the 70s and think that Jackie had a huge influence on women working. I remember seeing on the news that she got a job and worked like everyone else. It was almost shocking at the time since she was so wealthy she didn’t need the money and she was earning so little it couldn’t possibly affect her lifestyle. But I think that was a turning point for women even if we didn’t realize it at the time. She said is was OK for women to work. My mother went on to have 2 successful businesses, both as being an art dealer. She recently told me that when she started one of the businesses that she thought to herself, only poor women work. But she followed her passion for art and had a very successful career working on her own, with a business partner. My mother was a pioneer in her own way, she got bored very quickly of being a Dr.’s wife and taking tennis lessons and the like – for 20 years she had her offices on one of the nicest streets in Boston. Her business was very successful both with who their clients were and financially. She stopped working when my father was diagnosed with a brain tumor, which is another story altogether.
Its so ironic looking back at that period, where first it was ‘ok’ for a woman to work, and now families can’t exist without 2 incomes. Except for a very few both parents have to work, women working isn’t a statement or an anomaly, its a fact of life. I don’t think its a bad thing that women and men have to share the responsibility of finances. When children are involved thats a whole different ballgame. I guess I do believe in the traditional family values of having 2 parents, and one at home. Being gay I see no difference between a same sex or different sex couple. But thats not reality now. I do have full confidence that the economy will return to normal, the unemployment rate will be lowered. I wonder what other changes we have coming in the future. I am an optimist though and I think everything will get better; people will have more choices, there won’t be such a difference with the 1%. Things will be changing, they will have to be. The workforce getting older, people living longer, it will work itself out. I know I won’t be able to retire at 65, I think thats a thing of the past. They chose that age for social security back when the life expectancy was 63!
So, a new season has started its now summer. Our recent history is both interesting and informative. We do live in the greatest nation on earth and I believe the best is yet to come. Lets roll.