It just dawned on my when I answered the door and the postman was there with a package for me; what I know in my head and how I was brought up is not the way everyone else was so I thought I’d share some now with everyone. If you already know them you can use this as a reminder, if you dont it can give you something to think about. These are in no particular order.
- The postman I just referred to was surprised to see me greet him with a smile and a nice thank you. I could tell by the look in his eyes that thats not the way he is normally treated at other homes when he makes a delivery. My motto is treat everyone with the same respect that you want to be treated with. Dont give people attitude because you think you are in a higher station of life, even if you are, thats actually when you should make even more of an attempt to be friendly, courteous and generous.
- This is similar to the first example, but treat everyone with respect and dignity. Whether they be your waiter, cleaning your sewage or a sales clerk in a store. Always be kind to people, always make them feel appreciated; especially if they help you with something you need. Dont get me wrong, if your needs arent being met, whether in a restaurant or department store, stand up and ask nicely to have those needs or desires met. Dont let some snotty sales person in a high end store make you feel like you are bothering them or wasting their time. After all, you are shopping there, they are working there. But always start off on a positive note.
- Never, oh never, be discourteous to someone on the wait staff at a restaurant. They are bringing you your food and you have no idea what they will do with it before hand, so dont piss them off! When I have had horrible service at a restaurant I have many times said to myself I am not going to give any tip, or just a small one. Well of course when its time to go I change my mind; when I am really dissatisfied with the service I leave 15%
- My Father was not a man of fashion, he was a very successful doctor but wasnt interested in clothes so he was not what you would have called high style or fashion! However, he taught my brother and me a few basics that I see many men today not following. First is when you wear nice clothing you always wear an undershirt; it makes your white shirt look whiter and crisper and in the end makes you feel cooler. Also, undershirts make your nicer shirts last longer. My fathers other advice was when wearing a suit always wear socks that go to the knee, as its sloppy to wear ankle socks with a suit. His other piece of advice was make sure your shirt placket, tie, belt and pants all line up. Simple advice but you see many men not carrying it out and it makes them look bad.
- My father had advice for every situation, no matter where you were and what you were going through. Another piece from him was never buy anything on sales that you wouldnt buy at full price. Because something is market down its no reason to buy it if you wouldnt have bought it at full price. This of course has a piece of family history; when my older brother was around 18 months old my Mother was in Saks and bought my brother a beautiful trench coat made for a child his age, or he would soon fit into. My Mother told my Father what a great bargain it was; my Father insisted it be returned since no 18 month old needs a fancy trench coat!
- Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. Thats one of my mottos in life. Whether you are dealing with a bus boy or a CEO treat them with the same respect you would anyone else and more importantly the same respect you yourself want to be treated with. There is never any need to be rude or condescending to other people; thats never appropriate. You should treat others as equals unless they do something that is unacceptable. Then you are free to take action. But start out by giving people the benefit of the doubt.
- Always think about the things in life you are grateful for, whether it be spouse, family, kids, parents, friend. Focus on the positive. Dont dwell on negative things, it just puts your mind in a bad place.
The point of this piece is for people to take stock in whats good in their lives; what makes them happy. How to treat others with dignity and respect. We all have our challenges, especially in these trying times, but try to carve out in your mind what is going well and focus on that.